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Help Your Man Last Longer in Bed

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Stop! Okay let’s go…Slow down! Okay start….No wait!

Yes ladies, that’s annoying. Sex isn’t always like it’s portrayed in movies although we wish it were. As it turns out, a majority of men deal with immature ejaculation. You can’t guarantee you’ll turn him into a marathon man, but with these tips he should be able to last longer in bed.

It’s thought that the way a man masturbated as a young boy partly determines how quickly he’ll ejaculate during sex. He may have trained himself to come quickly before getting caught. Then he ages and becomes a quick draw. A Two Pump Chump. A Two Minute Man. Okay. You get the picture.

Another possibility is that he’s simply very turned on.

So how do you get him to last longer in bed?

Squeezing below the head of his penis can delay ejaculation. This is a technique you can do during oral sex and manual stimulation. Try the lingam massage for a fantastic tantric technique to drive him wild. Make sure you use the squeeze method during this massage!

Remind him to breathe. If he’s breathing rapidly, his sex session will end rapidly. Deep and slow breaths are key.

Don’t forget foreplay. Find other ways for you to achieve at least one orgasm before he finishes. Or if you become really turned on, you’ll be able to achieve your orgasm in less time. Use adult toys. You don’t have to worry about them going limp–only running out of batteries. Check out my other site, www.bestsensualtoys.com. I recommend the good ol’ bullet vibrator. You can place it on your clitoris if he’s behind you, on top of you or beside you. Use it on him during oral sex and especially use it when he’s not around!

In Tantra, the importance is placed on making a spiritual connection rather than crossing the finish line. In fact, you can take the “stop and go” method to another level.

One tantric technique you could try requires you to allow him to thrust in you only seven times. Then he pulls out. While he’s out, you can cuddle and kiss. The intimacy doesn’t stop. Wait a few minutes then you get on top of him and move minimally. In fact, squeeze and release your kegel muscles while holding him inside you. Do that for about thirty seconds then stop. Then continue with cuddling and kissing. You may repeat the cycle a few times before releasing into an orgasm. It’s fine if he loses his erection. It comes in waves and he’ll regain it again.

Sex and intimacy can last a lot longer if you focus on the spiritual and emotional connection.

Just don’t turn him on so much!

That’s a joke. You can slow it down some. If he seems like he’s about to blow, slow your movements or remind him to slow his thrusts.

Teach him about his kegels and suggest he start working them out. He can find his the same way we find ours–by stopping the flow of urine. This will give him more ejaculatory control. Work our your muscles at the same time while watching TV. “Okay, honey. Kegel time!”


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Best Sensual Toys

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grand-openingI’d like to announce the grand opening of my sister site, bestsensualtoys.com! Yay! (Cheer and applause)

As a sexual empowerment coach, I’m a huge advocate of embracing your sexuality. Adult toys and products are a wonderful way to learn about your body, experiment, and achieve an orgasm!

Many women have achieved their first orgasms with the use of vibrators. They come in different sizes and shapes and for a first you may try one which is slim or petite. With a slim vibrator, you can add sleeves to vary the sensation. Always use toy cleaners with your products for optimal health.

Many women don’t lubricate naturally. Hormones or age can be a cause, but with lubricants you don’t have to worry if your body doesn’t create natural moisture.

Adult toys and products enhance a relationship. I’ve heard from women that they worry a vibrator will desensitize them. This is not true. The use of a vibrator will not make it more difficult for you to achieve an orgasm. Read this article on vibrator myth busters.

Toys are there when your lover isn’t and they make your sex life more fun. Toys and products are regularly added to Best Sensual Toys so make sure to check back regularly. I’m also including a fun Sex Story section. If you have a funny, embarrassing, romantic, or memorable sex story, please share here!

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Love Being A Sexual Woman

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It’s wonderful to be a sexual woman–to be sexually empowered. But, with that comes silly, silly men.

I came across a blog from a woman who writes erotica. In one of her posts, she mentions that writing about sex doesn’t mean she wants to have sex with every man!

I got a kick out of it because I understand what she means. I get interesting looks from men after they learn I’m the Spiritual Sexpert. They say, “Oooh…Spiritual Sexpert. What does that mean?”

Depending on my mood, I might retort back, “I write about sexual empowerment for women. I write for women.” They usually get the hint.

Recently I received an email from a guy asking “Are those are the only two massages you do?”

What? What massages? I did write about the lingam massage, but you can clearly read I was writing about a tantric technique for women to try on their lovers. No where in that post did I say I’m taking personal clients.

The only other massage I could think of that he might have been referring to is reiki healing, which isn’t even a massage! It’s energy healing that balances the mind, body, and spirit.

If he was referring to Reiki, this isn’t the first time. I once received an email from a man asking about my “Reiki Massages.” This man said, ”How much do you charge for your massages? This is the first time I’ve tried this kind of thing. I don’t want my wife to find out.”

Poor wife! Not only is her husband a jerk, he’s a bozo!

Men come across a sexual woman and all logic goes out the window! Even the shyest men will instantly grow some balls and make crude or sexual innuendos. More often, men feel they get a free pass and want to talk only about sex. Talking about sex is completely fine, but they usually become horny with intentions to sleep with the woman.

It almost seems that the more sexual a woman is, the more pushy a man becomes. With varying degrees of sexuality, all women should experience the same level of respect and treatment.

I’m reminded of an episode of Secret Diary of a Call Girl where Belle was assaulted by a client. It’s as if he justified his actions based upon her profession.

Men aren’t the only ones confused about sexual women. Women themselves are often perplexed. For instance, many hide their sexual feelings because good girls aren’t sexual. In my short story, Sex Chronicles of Caroline Rose, Caroline is conflicted with feelings of lust and beliefs that it’s wrong to express her sexuality. Writing about her life and how she overcomes these beliefs is a way for me to show women that it’s perfectly natural and normal to embrace your sexuality.

Caroline eventually lets loose and fantasizes about her gorgeous boss and a love interest sparks at work. But just as real life brings you hurt, sadness, and happiness, Caroline experiences the same. Women who have read her story tell me of the encouragement they have felt. I’ve only written Part 1 in the series and I’m already getting demands for the second!

Often some women feel negatively towards a sexual woman. She’s referred to as a “slut” or “whore” if she’s had multiple partners. Instead of uniting, women turn against each other.

With all the predictions surrounding 2012, one of them is my favorite. Many believe the energy will shift creating a balance of male and female energy. In other words, women will regain their power lost. Then maybe, a sexual woman will become more commonplace.

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